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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]Sorry, this is 12:09 again, I wanted to re-read your posts. I thought you said she was falling asleep at 10 or 11, not getting that much sleep. So forget the melatonin rec but I would still check the iron. My nephew was moving around a lot at night and his sleep quality was poor--he was sleeping enough hours but the sleep wasn't restful.

[b]Ignore any of the well-meaning posters suggesting power plays and having "more backbone'. Seriously, this isn't a general parenting topic--most people have no clue what parenting a child like this is like-- and "showing her who's boss" here is only going to make the situation worse.[/b] The only discipline approach scientifically demonstrated to work is positive attention for good behaviors/choices and ignoring undesirable behaviors.

If you were my friend, I would suggest---if you could afford it--an evaluation by one of the highly recommended developmental pediatricians. It will cost around $700 but you will get an answer and a treatment plan from an expert. If you can't afford that, then make an appt with one of the childrens hospital dev pediatricians. They accept insurance but the wait to see them runs at least 6-9 months out. [/quote]

Yes, PP is right. [/quote]

I disagree. I think there are many parents with kids like the OPs (on the general parenting board) who are very challenging and difficult who do not consider their child to be special needs. OPs daughter may end up with a diagnosis but it is quite possible also that she won't and it will just be a matter of figuring out what family dynamics and what approaches are going to work for her. This likely will take professional input but it doesn't mean she will be officially special needs. Even within kids with special needs there really isn't a one size fits all strategy that will magically change behavior. OP and her DH have tried multiple approaches and are seeking out more to try. I am sure they are capable of sorting through and seeing what they have already tried, what goes against their parenting philosophy and what might be a good idea to try. Some of those good ideas may very well come from parents who are not on the special needs boards but have experience with difficult kids. [/quote]

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