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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]Are you fine if they're stuck working and on calls on holidays and in the middle of family vacations? With having them come home after 10pm many nights?[/quote]

One of my closest friends is at Big Law spouse (to another close friend) and she complains... a lot. I honestly think sometimes she forgets about the money and the advantages it buys them. But I also get it because this is partly because some of the downsides make those advantages less appealing. Examples: they can afford to travel really luxuriously pretty much anywhere, but her spouse will be working the entire time. They have a really nice house but very rarely entertain the way she wants to because the odds that her spouse will need to hop on a call in the middle of a dinner party on a Saturday night is actually quite high (I have witnessed this firsthand). They only have one kid and my friend has strongly implied that this is at least partly because her life at home with a kid is quite lonely, and by stopping at one she is able to work (part time in a low paying, flexible job) and actually be around other people and feel like she has a bit of a life.

I know a lot of moms in their 40s and sadly this friend is probably among the most unhappy, despite also being probably the most well off. I know not all big law spouses feel this way -- I know another couple with a similar set up and they both seem really happy. Though notably, they live in the Midwest and I think the Big Law lifestyle is really different there, plus the overall culture is much more family-friendly and family-focused, so I think the SAHM in that family is more fulfilled and feels much less isolated.[/quote]

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