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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]Okay but what would you do? Spouse just left for work and dog is whining at the empty water bowl. Do you give the dog a little water? Make spouse come back? Leave the dog thirsty even though you're home all day? Charge spouse a tax?

Trust me if the dog has diarrhea one day you won't be casually just leaving that for spouse's eventual return.

This won't work. Dogs are living beings. If you dislike them so much you will not like how much they affect your life. It will not be possible for the dog to be a spouse thing separate from you. There will be too many lines crossed. There will be too many possible situations you will have to step in, and ultimately the dog won't understand why it communicates to you but you won't meet its need thus making it really hard to properly train and socialize the dog.[/quote]

Have you realized that what you described is why the OP doesn’t want a dog? [/quote]

But the PPs point is that what she described is the [i]exact reason [/i]an agreement wouldn’t work. It’s not logistically feasible for OP.[/quote]

Then perhaps the spouse needs to be pro-active and do things to not make the dog OP’s responsibility when the spouse isn’t home. Like put the dog in a doggie daycare when they’re at work for example. Hire a dog walker. Clean up after the dog or hire someone.[/quote]

It’s. Not. Feasible.

As the first PP said, you can’t account for every situation, and training is exponentially more difficult—if not impossible—if one party is ignoring the dog. [/quote]

Then how do single people have a dog? You make it sound like the spouse needs the OP’s assistance but why can’t the spouse just figure the dog out ? [/quote]

NP. I’ve had friends jump in to help with my cats when I was single. One cat sit for me for a week. One came and fed my cats when our cat sitter backed out at the last minute. One fed my cats the first day I was home after surgery and couldn’t get around (she was also caring for me!) plus a coworker covered for me once when I had to take a cat to the emergency vet. That’s over a ten year period, and cats are easier than dogs, but still. Sh*t happens.

If a neighbor texted me full of apologies, said he was stuck at work and asked me to run over and walk the dog, I’d happily do it (and I’m not a dog person). If I got there and his able bodied wife was just sitting there? I’d be pissed.

OP, honestly, if you really hate dogs THIS MUCH you should not get a dog. If he gets a dog, YOU need to be your husband’s emergency backup. That’s what marriage is.

It’s totally reasonable to demand that your husband handle all dog care as the regular order of things. If you’re concerned that he’d shirk that responsibility because of a history of responsibility-shirking, then absolutely do not get a dog! A “contract” isn’t going to solve that. If you think he’s unrealistic about dog care, maybe start by fostering and see how it goes. But if your husband has a dog, you’re not going to get through the dog’s whole life without ever walking him once. You need to accept that, or you need to not let a dog into your house. [/quote]

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