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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]Ugh I tend to ask questions when I intend to reach out to offer support. I don't know what to say otherwise, so I ask questions. And also, my mom is the same way and I hate it.

I don't know if your mom is like me or not. Tell her you know she's worried about you but all her questions just make you feel overwhelmed. Sometimes you just feel better when you're NOT thinking about all stuff, and the questions just force you to think about your illness when you have OTHER responsibilities to deal with.

Give her suggestions. When she's worried about you, she should text you with "how are you feeling today?" Or "I'm going to the grocery store, can I get you anything?" Or "need anything today?"

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I can understand having some questions but the questions posted in the OP are so detailed and obsessive. I have OCD and these kinds of questions pop up in my head constantly but I would never impose this on another person. These kinds of questions make you think "omg if I did chemo this morning and feel like crap should I still go to work in the afternoon because what if I run out of PTO and FMLA and then will Iose my job and then my health insurance omg and then where will we live and what about my child's education... "

Every decision you make becomes a huge life changing one. You question if every single thing you eat or drink or any treatment is making you better or worse. It is not OK to impose that sort of anxiety on someone else. I'm sure OP has many difficult thoughts and doesn't need another person questioning her to this extent. It is very unhealthy. Like the stress of these questions can make her physically sicker. [/quote]

Want to say that wasn't directed at PP. I know they were offering solid advice. Just wanted to explain why I don't think these are just questions. [/quote]

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