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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]MILs can’t win on DCUM. They’re either too hands on or not hands on enough.  Too caring or not caring enough.  Not willing to babysit or willing to babysit but “too flaky” to trust with the kids.  Too strict or too loose.

It’s exhausting.  You are all a bunch of shrews.  I can’t wait until you are MILs yourselves.  Karma, baby, karma. [/quote]

I was thinking this too after reading the op and responses.  Karma is a thing.  I just wish these moms have daughter in laws who are just  like they currently are [/quote]

Both my MIL and Mom are great grandparents. They offer to help in many ways but respect both mine and my H's boundaries. In fact one time I was vacationing just me and my son with my MIL and her husband. She wanted to do this activity later in the evening before my younger son and I had a morning flight out. I tried to politely say no multiple times and she went ahead and did said activity...I thought, ok this is annoying but whatever, I'm not going to die on this hill. The next morning on the drive to the airport she apologized and said she heard I was trying to say no and she ignored it and that wasn't right and she was sorry. I really appreciated it and frankly it made me feel closer to her.

I do agree that some people create a "no-win situation," but also, no one is perfect but we should all try to have some self-awareness even with our loved ones. My H and I try to plan ahead for stuff so that no one is disappointed or hurt or upset. It may take a bit more effort on the front end, but it then makes things go more smoothly on the back end. Maybe, OP, in the future you and your H can have more of a set plan/schedule on these kind of trips to mitigate activities you guys aren't as interested in. My MIL has her quirks but I love her...we didn't start out on the best foot and I'm so glad that we got to this point. [/quote]

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