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[quote=Anonymous]OP, I think her behavior can be because she felt threatened by her younger sister.  My DD was super sweet to her baby brother before he started crawling and getting into her things when he was about 9 months.  There onwards, we went through a period of hell with a very uncooperative 3 years old DD.  She would say no to everything, so much that DH was calling her "Miss No No!"  All the while she was the perfect student in school with a sweet smile.  Things get worst when DS started walking and running and ruining her toys, her books and taking her parents’ time away from her.  It has only gotten better when they started to play together.  I think one to one time with her is very important right now, so that she become the only child again.  I remembered DD told me that, "Mama, I am still a baby too!!" when I was cuddling with baby DS.  Now DD and DS are inseparable.  DD will miss DS when he is napping, and when DS woke up from his nap if he didn't see DD, he will ask for her.  Very sweet.  They still fight, but it is clear that they love each other and depends on each other.  DD is 6 and DS is almost 4.  Hang in there.

Tricks that may be helpful right now:
1.  reasoning -- explain why you ask her to do thing (you need to eat or you will be hungry and you will feel terrible;  you need to wash your hands because they are full of germs that can get you sick)
2.  respect -- try to see things from her point of view and understand why she is upset.  Show empathy.
3.  hugs and kisses -- when you are very angry, instead of yelling, force yourself to hug and kiss her, both of you will be surprised by the effect of that and may change the mood all together.
4.  warnings -- always announce what is coming and what do you expect DD to do before hand (e.g. when we get back into the house, please take off your shoes, wash your hands and then sit down at the table for lunch)

I hope this helps.
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