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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]Two weeks after my 51yo mil died of a sudden heart attack, my fil moved a neighbor into their bedroom. A few weeks later, he asked my son to be his best man. That was the last time my exdh ever spoke to his father. At the time mil died, fil had been having a long-term affair with this woman — so long that my sisters-in-law suspected her daughter was his. That was 30 years ago and they’re still married. When I hear someone says they found someone new days or weeks after the death of a spouse, that’s what I suspect, rightly or wrongly. [/quote]

Same.  I know someone who acquired a significant other just weeks after their spouses death.  Moved right in!  Would not have been out fo the blue LOL.[/quote]

Also know someone who swore of all men and is finally coming to the admission that they do not like men, they like women, so I say live your best life. [/quote]

I have nothing against living your best life but in the case of my 51yo mil, the family really suffered. There were still multiple kids at home and they went off the rails. I guess it could have happened even if their dad hadn’t remarried, but losing mom and getting a stepmom when you’re a teen didn’t help.

I understand more if you’re 75yo and reach out to your high school or college girlfriend who is also widowed. But kids take it harder. My own cousin who was a widow at 31yo, asked his kids if they were ready before he started dating about 2 yrs after their mom died. He was very sensitive to this issue because his dad died when he was a kid and his mom remarried months later. Again, it was really hard on the kids. [/quote]

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