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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]3 days after my mom's funeral (she was only 50), my dad told me he met someone new and didn't care if he ever saw me or my brother again.  Good times.

In the good news department, if your dad plays his cards right, he will get a nurse and/or a purse.  In the bad news department, many men basically abandon the original family and just hang with the new wife's grandkids, etc.  [/quote]

Did the “didn't care if he ever saw” you comment come before or after you presumably judged him for his decision?[/quote]

I'm not the PP you quoted, but I'm the poster whose FIL did something very similar.  
Really?   You don't think starting to date within days of your spouse's funeral is judgment worthy?[/quote]

If it was a long drawn out death, like my mom's, we had all grieved her impending death already.  So no, it is not ok to judge someone for wanting to live their life.  
It is ok to allow a fully formed, intelligent human to move forward.  [/quote]

It's not about "allowing"--PP's dad and my FIL were "allowed" to do what they want.   It doesn't mean their adult children, and anyone else, won't think a lot less of them for it.[/quote]

NP and kinda surprised someone would announce it that quickly if doing.  Partly because you've gotta figure people are gonna judge you so maybe keep it on the down low.  Also, it's likely no one would notice and probably the first few people you date won't be a good long-term match so it's not like they will be around for a long time anyways.[/quote]

Pp you quoted here.
Yes, it's definitely a surprise, which is why my sister in law reacted very strongly and negatively to the news.[/quote]

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