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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]My thought is probably that you and your daughter are humble and graceful, so people just didn't know. In a world where parents of smart kids tend to humble brag endlessly and annoyingly, I'd say you are refreshing![/quote]

Same here, OP.  Since this is anon, I will say that the one thing is that knowing your kid is a superstar, you can't say anything in person, but you want to shout it from the rooftops!  I say good on you, because clearly you did something right. Cheers!

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Thank you, that's really nice!

The responses are helpful. I think the answer lies in 2 things: 1)I'm overreacting and most people don't think about it or care and 2)Some people do have this reaction, and it's mostly because both DD and I discuss this stuff with others never. Adults and kids talk about "what honors are you in next year?" or "Was your kid invited into X organization?" quite a bit, now that I'm thinking about it... which is fine... but it's not something we would bring up or give too much oxygen to.

-OP[/quote]

PP here.  Depending where you live (or not), you have to be really careful whom you tell - as you can see here. I think if the parents are smart and accomplished, it is really a no brainer that their DC are, too! [b] I also think that people in the D.C. area people like to mistake humility for stupidity or naivete, because it supposedly helps their narrative that their kid is "more deserving" or whatever (hence concluding that they, as the parents, are "more deserving" or whatever)[/b].

Some kids have it in them to be good at what they do, even without tutors (egads!) and that is great!  Celebrate that, and don't be afraid to tell your DC how amazing they are, because they are!

Some people truly have a hard time being happy for others, and I also think that this is especially true in this geographic area, compared to other places I have resided. I think if you have experience with other cultures and other geographic places, you realize that the "portray confidence" and snarky rhetoric that is crowed about on DCUM is a crock of crap, and often is an overcompensation for someone who is lacking.

Love the kid you have, people, they know! [/quote]

Wow, this post is really insightful, especially the bolded. Can you tell this is my first child? lol -OP[/quote]

You got this, and so do your DCs, OP - they will do great things - embrace it! Try not to get frustrated when other people are one way in their discussions, or do not let you get a word in edgewise about your kids, because that is telling.  It is hard to find your people, but they are out there.  Maybe there is an alumni group for your school in this area, to start?  Sending you empathy, PP.

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That is really nice of you. Thanks and best of luck to your kids, too![/quote]

Thanks! Ignore the haters! ;) [/quote]

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