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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]$3500 in expenses after mortgage and savings is a lot. You should have very limited childcare/camp expenses because you SAH. You should also have limited eating out/convenience food because you’re at home and able to meal prep.

I make a little less than your DH, and my monthly expenses are $3500 but that includes $1000 in childcare expenses, and a lot of convenience expenses because I’m a single parent.

I think you have a distorted vision of what a $250k HHI lifestyle looks like. It’s not living large, especially when you have two kids.

But finances aside, it sounds like you and your DH are not a team. I suggest therapy to figure out how you got here, and how to right the ship, so you can start functioning like a cohesive unit.[/quote]

On the occasions my spouse grocery shops, the bill easily comes out to over $100 for ingredients for one meal. While I try to manage with $200 for the whole week. And it’s my spouse who wants the big expenditures like family vacations in remote and exotic places, or to build a home theater, or an extra hobby luxury vehicle. And it’s my spouse who, when I have to be away, takes the family out to eat at expensive restaurants. While I am always looking to cut expenses, my spouse doesn’t.[/quote]

He might think these are reasonable trade-offs.  He might be thinking that you eat beans and rice most nights so that sometimes it’s okay to splurge on a fancy meal.  Or that you dress the kids in used clothing so that you can spend that money on a vacation to Costa Rica or whatever.  He might also think that saving money on these things is you financial contribution as a SAH parent.  
It might seem obvious to you that you would rather spend more day to day and not have these luxury items, but it might not be as obvious to him.  [/quote]

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