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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]I agree that he is controlling you.  I would tell him that you are going to have to have to get a job because there is not enough money.  He is going to have to figure out childcare and all of the things that you do as a SAHM because you won't have time to do them since you will be working.

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[b]The plan is, my spouse is going to quit his job next year and take a little time off to contemplate a career change, and get a new part time gig while figuring something out. I’m supportive. At that time I can start interviewing to re-enter the workforce, which will honestly be a bit tough for me with the large gap in employment and the fact that my field is pretty competitive with a lot of younger people in it who are willing to work for less. And I also have a lot of commitments- I’m serving terms on several boards and committees and run a non profit. So I’ll either have to quit all those or I’ll have to also do part time.[/b]

I’m kind of freaking out about how all the things will get done at that time and afraid that all the house and kid stuff will still fall on me since much of it has been 100 percent my responsibility since the beginning. And then I’ll be stuck doing way more than my share or just completely drowning. [/quote]

This sounds banana-balls.
So, we're just over here quitting jobs before we have another one, while the other parent doesn't work, but will "start interviewing" after he's already quit, but he might have a new part time gig while figuring something out?

Girl, this has better be satire.

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+1. If this is legit, you are both terrible decision makers. And you are going to end up back at work and doing 100% of the home stuff. This guy is using financial control over you.[/quote]

It’s not a terrible decision. Correction from my above estimate, we potentially have enough to live on for almost 3 yrs. There are other not-as-liquid assets we could tap into. Without touching anything close to pension, retirement, or college funds.

Spouse has an in demand job and will very easily find part time work that we can live on comfortably enough. We have no mortgage payments or school loan payments anymore, so we have the flexibility to do something like this.

The hardest part for us, I think will be the shifting of roles and responsibilities. And yeah part of it is that I miss earning money. [/quote]

This sounds like a terrible plan - but, forget that. Is there a reason you can't get a job now?

I hate to say this - but if your HHI is $250k, what will it be once your spouse is only working part time? Our HHI is $250k with both of us working - and we don't have kids - and I'd say we're very comfortable but it's not like every month we're rolling around in extra money wondering where to burn it. We're still paying off a house - and I guess you're not - so that factors in. But $250k isn't, like, burning cash in the fire pit type of money. It's buy the expensive cheese when you want it money, and sure get the nicer socks.[/quote]

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