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[quote=Anonymous]Don’t do it. My husband and I had to do this after 2008 because my in laws had financial issues so my DH bailed them out from (likely) financial ruin which meant we had to move in.  I told him to get stuff in writing but he refused because it was his parents.  They refused to sell their enormous house.  Anyway, the dynamics were bad, they never paid him back and then told us we had to move out of “their” house.

We live across the country now and own a beautiful home and have kids.  We visit them and they visit us but the dynamic has never been the same.  My DH is still crushed about what happened and what they meant for our financial future for those years and how we were treated.

Really think about it when you have kids.  The woman will do the brunt of the caregiving and work.  My in laws expected us to do everything .  Caregiving is hard work on top of any job and kid things you have.

My uncle moved into his moms house without his adult children and it’s awful for him.  He works full time and my mom helps take care of my grandmother too but for both of them it’s an awful experience.  I would never put kids in that situation.  Can you move close by to help?  What about hiring aides?  If you do
Move in you need to hire out help because caregiving  24/7 is a lot. [/quote]

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