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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]I had a friend who would tell lies like this as well. I think it was compulsive, but I notice the lies always, always made her look good. Sometimes she'd do it and I just wouldn't understand because it was such a fantastical lie, and I'd ask follow up questions thinking I'd misunderstood, and she'd get angry and dig in deeper.

She would never admit she did it. Even when it was obvious.

That friendship ultimately died for a variety of reasons and the lying wound up being a side issue and not the primary issue. But in retrospect, it was a massive red flag about her. I think she was deeply insecure and lied to promote or aggrandize herself. She was also hyper-competitive and had a tendency to put me down or minimize things about me (both good and bad -- she'd dismiss my job as "easy" right after I got a promotion, but she'd also minimize the fact that my mom was sick as not a big deal even if I was quite worried). I think it felt threatening to her for anyone else to get even small amounts of attention, praise, or concern, about anything. The lies I think were designed to pull attention.

That's what that roses lie sounds like to me -- an effort to get praise and attention.

It is very hard to sustain a friendship with someone who is always acting out of insecurity AND who views you as a competitor. Even if it's possible, I'm not sure it's worth it.[/quote]
Im a pp who posted about my friend doing the same - but mine was the opposite. She would say really terrible things were happening to her to get sympathy and attention.

And also one time she told me she was having a dinner party, but it was some MLM pitch thing. Unforgiveable! [/quote]

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