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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]My mom is 85 and has very cheerful dementia.

I thank heaven and earth that she does not have angry dementia, and she still basically knows who I am though she thinks I am 14.

But I miss my mom, the person I could have a conversation with. You can’t have talk about anything with someone that has no memory. My mom physically is here but that woman is just a shadow of my mom.

And she is so physically healthy. I fear she will live forever. I don’t think I can do this for another 10 years.[/quote]

[b]If I get dementia, I am going to end things in a moment of lucidity[/b]. At some point I want to talk to my kids about it - when we are all much older. But hearing these stories about caring for parents with dementia, spending insane amounts of money to be looked after and not knowing who I am or who my family are. If you're lucky, you are cheerful. If you're not, then you're angry and unhappy. Forget it. My maternal grandmother had relatively early onset Alzheimer's. I never knew her well because of it. But over the years I watched her go from semi-lucid to mentally not there at all. My mother would cry when she remembered how vibrant she was. I don't want that for anyone.[/quote]

That’s not typically how dementia works.[/quote]

?? People don't typically go from fully functioning to permanent cognitive impairment from one day to the next. Plenty of people with dementia or Alzheimer's know of their diagnosis while they are still cognitively all or mostly there.[/quote]

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