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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]Umm---remember that the "dinosaur" giving advice on job interviewing may also be doing interviewing/hiring of young people in their own profession, so not as much as a dinosaur as you might think.  Of course, if my kid wants to go interview as a talent scout for a record company, then I have no relevant advice.  But interviewing for a job in an office environment similar to my own---yeah---parents actually know stuff.  I don't convey it by telling my kid directly though---I just say, "It was so sad today.  This young person came in with a great resume, but didn't make eye contact, hadn't done any research about our company, and all they wanted to talk about was how much they wanted to work from home.  We did not hire them."[/quote]

Your kid sees through that. They know you are trying to impress a lesson on them.

I would be careful about assuming that because you do hiring in your profession, that you know what your kids should do. Industries can be very distinct. I remember interviewing at law firms during law school and the advice my dad (who runs his own business and. has interviews a lot of people) gave was really not at all helpful. He looks for different things and as an entrepreneur, he's way less focused on academic credentials than law firms are. He thought he knew but he didn't, not really. I did better using advice from friends who had gone through the process more recently. Employers would have found my dad's approach off-putting.

I guess my point is: don't be arrogant. Your child is not 8 years old. If they have gotten through college, have a little bit experience working and interviewing, they may know more than you do. They definitely know more than you think they do. And your example of the person who didn't make eye contact or hadn't done research... those are things that ideally your kid has learned well before you're trying to impart this lesson at 22 or 23. If not, they may be mistakes they need to make and learn from themselves. Your advice just has less impact than you think it does.[/quote]

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