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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]Hopefully you have been good parents and raised them with love and with fairness that both children feel and acknowledge. Hopefully, both kids gre up feeling loved and heard.

The biggest  reason for sibling estrangement happens when they feel that their parents do not treat them equally. This is especially true for inheritance.  [b]Inheritance should always be  equal, regardless of if the parents have helped one sibling more through money or labor during their lifetime.   [/b]Sibling don't share the same fortune in life. One is richer, healthier, more independent, more successful etc. Inevitably, parents help and support one kid more.  That is their prerogative. But, in death - distribute the wealth equally.

Have a family group chat and maybe do one group call every eek.  Remind each other of birthdays and milestones. Plan family vacations. share family history etc.  There are many ays to make the bonds stronger.  Don't judge their partners.  Love beget love.

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How does that exactly work in the equality equation?[/quote]

Dead parents should leave equal amounts to all kids.  The final act. [/quote]

Dead parents are dead, and they should do whatever they want, but being equal means in aggregate terms, you treat your children equally. I’d be pretty disappointed if my parents gave my sibling/s throughout life, and didn’t give me, and then shared what was left equally. Of course, depending on the exact amounts it may not be a problem, but if I end up with half of what others got, because the others “needed” while parents were alive, I would definitely feel not treated equally.

Money is good at anytime for anyone, unless your wealth is way way bigger than what your parents distributed unevenly. Even if you are that much richer than your parents, getting treated equally is an emotional need.

Again, you must have been milking your parents through life, and now want to make sure you can milk them some more. [/quote]

Yeah, I call BS on parents must leave money evenly split regardless of the support they've provided. I have 2 siblings. One has no kids and works very hard. I never begrudge my parents giving her a dime. On the other hand, I have a sister who is married with 2 kids, she and my BIL constantly have their hands out while taking expensive vacations, buying motorcycles, etc. They have saved 0 money for their kids to go to college and I know my parents will step in. And that is fine by me, really, if that's how my parents choose to support them. But I don't take a dime from them ever so it would be super "unfair" to me and my single sister if our other sister were to get an equal share of the inheritance after receiving college tuition for two kids.

That said, I know my dad well enough to know that if he does end up paying for her kids to go to college he will tell us all in advance and make changes to his will to reflect it. So I think it's all in how the parents handle it while they're still alive. If my sister felt it was unfair that my parents paid for her kids to go to college AND she didn't get a third of the inheritance - that's an entitlement issue.[/quote]

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