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If she's a genuinely close friend, you could feel as if you could ask her. Especially considering you gave her support when she was separating only 18 months ago. While I agree with a PP above that maybe her marriage was done long ago and she her then-DH were both seeing other people for longer than you know. But I also understand your feelings of unease around her new living arrangement. If she only got together with this BF in 2021 or so, it's very, very fast to involve kids and blend families living under the same roof, and for me that would indicate some rose-colored glasses on her part, which affects the kids. [/quote]

It’s “very, very fast”? It was 2 years ago![/quote]

Many people with kids do not even [i]introduce[/i] their kids to people they're only [i]dating[/i] for many months or even a year or longer. Many posts over the years on this forum about waiting to introduce dates or new BF/GF to the kids.

In this case, the two adults are moving all their kids in together in what appears to be quite a bit less than two years. And both adults were married to other people until late 2022, according to OP.

Sounds like the adults here may be in a love fog (maybe a leftover affair fog...) and thinking more about themselves than about going slowly for the sake of their kids' adjustment. Those of us posting here can't know for sure, of course; we're strangers, speculating on the internet. You as much as me, PP.

The real point of the thread should be, what should OP do? I think OP should go with her gut and distance herself if she feels uncomfortable. [/quote]

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