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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]My husband is cheating on me. I’ve known for months and haven’t told anyone. I love my husband with every fiber of my being. I cannot leave. Leaving would hurt much more than staying. I doubt he will stop. I don’t want to break up our family, and in spite of his cheating i still care very much for him. I have to figure out a way to accept and pull through.[/quote]

You sound dormant.  You absolutely cannot accept this as your reality.  It is not healthy for you or your children.[/quote]

PP here. Stop it. Divorce does not fix this. It really does not. There is more to a marriage than sex. People who immediately jump to leaving do not understand that getting a divorce won’t fix the pain…and then she would be divorced and likely worse off in many ways. I am divorced. People should only divorce if they truly want to; if they are not happy in a marriage, they should leave. But leaving if you are generally happy but cheating happened, divorce can be the a worse outcome because you lose all components of marriage except one. Affairs do not usually last a long time.

I would not end a marriage over cheating if I was happy otherwise. I left my marriage beside it was a huge mistake and financially and emotionally abusive and I was never happy in it. Divorce can be a good outcome in this scenario. If someone is happy with married life, divorce is not always the better decision. [/quote]

+1 left a highly abusive marriage. In your situation, best course is to stay and wait it out [b]until the AP realizes he will never leave and dumps him.[/b] If it’s serial infidelity that’s another story but if it’s one person it’s a war of attrition. Can take years. Maybe even a decade or more.[/quote]

Usually the guy gets sick of them and dumps them.  At least I see this when both are married.  Usually the guy feels she is getting to needy and trying to encroach on his marriage for her dream of an exit affair (even if she stated she wasn't planning to leave).  Single women might decide to leave, but usually they hang on and on and on believing him when he says 'one day, after kids grow up, etc, etc.[/quote]

This is very true for both genders, if one person keeps their marriage, after awhile other affair partner wants more and married one doesn't care enough to give it. Once novelty is gone and neediness and nagging has taken over, it's not fun but baggage. [/quote]

Cheater may end this affair and straighten up or cheat on their affair partner too.[/quote]

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