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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]OP, you sound emotionally manipulative. The most simply answer as to why your husband will not hug you when you are crying of issues like "back to school stress" is that he simply refuses to reward your bad behavior.

[b]The argument that that "men's only emotion is anger so he should go to therapy" is misandrist.[/b]

Lets take your example of "back to school stress" where you start the morning by crying. What is it that you want from him? Are you actually wanting a hug or are you wanting him to take care of some action items.

If what you want is literally a hug, CRYING FOR A HUG IS CHILDISH AND MANIPULATIVE. As an adult you should have self-awareness to think "humm... I"m stressed, I'd like a hug from my husband" than an ADULT will walk over to their husband and using their big girl words say: "honey, I'm feeling a lot of stress and a hug would make be feel less stressed. Will you please give me a hug?"

If you did that then I bet he would give you a hug. If he didn't give you hug, then he is being a jerk.

That isn't what you do. You cry (like a child) and hope his response is the magic response you want and if he doesn't give you the secret code you get to be more upset with him. YOU are manipulative.[/quote]

The irony of how irrationally angry you got at OP for posting about wanting a hug while including this line.   :lol: [/quote]

+1. PP sounds unhinged. [/quote]

That PP is unhinged, no doubt. But there are some kernels of truth there. It’s actually pretty bad behavior to demand hugs or physical affection in general. Requesting a hug is okay, but it’s also okay to refuse, even between spouses.

I think if this was a husband posting about how a wife wouldn’t give him hugs, the responses would be pretty different. [/quote]

Where do you see she "demanded" a hug, or are you making things up to make sure you pick the gender you prefer to side with? 
 Asking your spouse, of either sex, for a hug is not bad behavior.  Of course your spouse can refuse, but then getting angry with you and picking a fight is actual bad behavior.  OP did nothing wrong.[/quote]

DP.

She expects a hug from him when she is sad. Look at her topic for this thread.

Nothing wrong with it, but she does demand a hug when she is sad.

If guy started a thread with " wife refused to give me sex when I'm horny". Many will say he was demanding sex.[/quote]

DP here too. If you read the rest of the post, what she is really looking for is support from her husband. I have a feeling if it doesn't have to be a hug, it could be a hand hold with a sincere expression of sympathy. It could be kind words and checking in with her throughout the day to see if she's feeling better. It could be a lot of things besides a hug. I don't think she's "demanding" a hug.[/quote]

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