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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]One complaint you sometimes hear from dads is that they feel like the wife's employee or junior partner in childcare. I've always wondered exactly what is meant by this or what is involves in practice. Is it about not knowing what to do? Not feeling sufficiently involved in decisions? Not being around enough? If you're a man who feels this way (or a wife whose DH complains about it) can you explain what it means?[/quote]

Sadly, too many women criticize everything their husband does if it isn't exactly their way.  They criticize so much that the husband stops doing anything.  Your way is not the only way.[/quote]

Try to understand that some ways are better than others. My way is not the only way, but half-assing and procrastinating and dumping the consequences on others is not acceptable.[/quote]

You are wrong but it will takes years for you to get to that conclusion if you’re ever wise enough to arrive there. [/quote]

How is she wrong? If I let DH handle summer plans he would wait until June and book one random week somewhere. Then expect me to cover the rest of the summer because he “has to work in the office now.”

Example: in 2 weeks DH will have to start going into the office 4 days/week. Has he said a SINGLE word to me about how to arrange school pickup/after school? No, he has not. Will also just randomly announce he is entirely leaving town without asking about my schedule.

Men don’t see themselves as “junior partners” in the family, what a joke. [b]They see themselves as entirely independent and with zero responsibility except when they decide they want it. It’s the mom/wife who is the junior partner. Always.[/b] [/quote]

This. Or worse, they think you're their assistant or secretary. I've had to fight *hard* against this tendency-- the more men get into manager-managee relationships at work, the more they'll start acting this way at home too.[/quote]

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