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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]We have a similar issue with our 6 yr old. Definitely the nonstop talking, that's probably the thing that wears me down the most. But also some of the social issues like just announcing stuff to strangers or wanting to show them an ouchie or tell them what's going on in their life, or interrupting phone calls to announce her presence.

We do suspect ADHD but haven't been through diagnosis yet because it hasn't been an issue at school yet and my understanding is that they generally don't medicate at this age unless it's very severe, so either way we're just talking about working with her on impulse control, social skills, and other behavioral skills. I have an appointment with our ped in a couple weeks to discuss next steps-- if diagnosing now might get her OT that could help, we'll pursue that.

I do think the comments on this thread about how it's a reflection of parenting are off base. My kid is an only who gets tons of 1:1 time with both parents, has both structure and limits, tons of physical activity, etc. This is just who she is. Parenting is that obviously important but it doesn't produce this kind of hyperactivity or lack of social awareness. Some kids are just like this.[/quote]

True, but parenting — a certain style, with lots of structure — helps a lot with kids with ADHD and similar issues. It is a lot more work than the hands off parenting some people can get away with when they have NT kids. The Russell Barkley books are a good place to start. [/quote]

PP here and I appreciate the book suggestions.

Agree ADHD kids need a different kind of parenting, and it's always important to meet kids where they are at. But you don't MAKE a kid ADHD by being a hands off parent. It just won't work as well for that kid and you'll deal with more negative issues. I was responding specifically to the people who seem to think of you parent a kid a specific way, they won't develop behaviors like the constant talking or oversharing with strangers. OP's kid doesn't do those things because OP and her partner are introverts, or because they've neglected him. That's just how he is and they have to meet him where he's at.

The irony is that if I had a kid who wasn't like this, people would accuse me of being a helicopter parent for parenting as I do. A lot of people mistakenly believe there is ONE correct way to parent and that it will result in good outcomes for all kids and work for all families. It's just a very unproductive attitude when someone has a kid with challenges. [/quote]

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