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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]Before her dementia got too bad, my mother used to tell me she did not want to be a burden. Unsurprisingly, she became a great burden as her dementia progressed. She now begs me to take her home every time I visit her in memory care. Once my kids are old enough, I want them to understand that if/when I am debilitated with dementia, that I may say hurtful or guilt inducing things to them, but that it's the disease talking and not my true self talking. I'd want them to know that it's okay to feel bad, but to try not to feel guilt--because doing what works for them in regards to visiting or caring for me is the best thing they can do. Also, if it hasn't already been mentioned, plan out and pay for your funeral in advance.[/quote] That’s got to be so hard! It’s such a good thing you recognize it’s the disease talking and not your mom. It’s hard when they get old![/quote]
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