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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]Definitely tell him that motherhood is a non-negotiable for you and you hope he's the father but if that's not what he sees in his life, this really can't continue.

I'm someone who has always wanted kids, and it is hard for me to understand "fence sitters" even though I know many people feel this way.  I have to assume the same is true in reverse.  Maybe he really doesn't get how important this is to you.

When I read your post, it really sounds to me like he's gotten cold feet, not necessarily that he's moved into the No camp (or was always there).  I think that's normal, and healthy, because becoming a parent is a big deal and you should have a sense of what you're getting yourself into.

A point he should consider if he's worried about having kids because he loves your current life is that life will always change.  You can't stop it.  You've got to think about what you want life to look like in the future, not compare it to what life looks like now.  [/quote]

Oh, and I forgot, go to your OBGYN and get a fertility workup.  Statistically speaking you're probably fine, but fertility issues pop up at all ages and it would be good for you to know if you have any obvious hurdles ahead.[/quote]

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