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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]Nobody "needs" to be in a nursing home, as many posters say. Your parents made their choice. Why can you not just leave them to it? [b]As long as they are not driving and are not harming others[/b], why can't they just live the way they are in peace? Might they both fall and die over the course of 5 days because neither can get up? Possibly. Might they screw up their medications and die of heart failure? Yes. If that's they way they choose to go, so what? Seriously. What is that worse than eating up resources dying a slow, useless, painful death in a nursing home? This is what my mother is doing, because my older sisters wouldn't drop the issue until my parents finally relented. My father died two years later, and 18 of those months was in a delirium in a hospital bed. Now, my mother lives in memory care and says she wishes she were dead every day. They would have been better off falling down the stairs going out the way they wished. The nursing care industry is a racket.[/quote]

You can't stop them from driving. My mother was told not to drive after her stroke, did it anyway, and totaled the car within 5 minutes of getting in it. Went right through a red light.

I think you should take your mother out of memory care so she can go home, PP. What could go wrong?[/quote]

Take the keys.  [/quote]

And then they can’t get food, etc. And no they don’t use delivery services as they don’t do anything online, and to add to that, no one lives near them and they have no friends in the area anymore. In short, none of this is simple. You want to make it simple but it isn’t. The fact is, when someone deteriorates to the point where they can’t care for themselves anymore and refuse help in, that alone is a sign of not being mentally right anymore.  At that point, family should step in and if they are unsuccessful, the county/state should[/quote]

You can order food and have it delivered.  [/quote]

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