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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]If you have successfully navigated family members or ILs like this, I’d love your tips.

On vacation, or even just when we have visitors or are visiting relatives, my family likes to take our time in the mornings. If we have a reason to get up and get going, like church or a planned activity or a planned day trip or something, of course we get up and get going. But otherwise, we like to relax and ease into the day.

Some of our relatives are Morning Pouncers. They talk loudly, make no attempt to be a little quiet if people are still sleeping, start fussing about making an elaborate breakfast that none of my family wants, at least not at 6 a.m.[b] In the summer, I’m able to sneak downstairs, get an iced coffee from the fridge, and hide in the bedroom to get at least 30 minutes of blessed quiet, but in winter, I’m trapped with no coffee, because if they see me, they expect full and instant contact and being “on.”[/b] We’ve tried talking about our preference to ease into the day, but if they see any of us, the expectations and the noise start, full-on. Any advice?[/quote]

I genuinely don't see how the season makes a difference here?[/quote]

She’s able to get premade coffee out of the fridge rather than having to make hot coffee in the kitchen.[/quote]

I'm sorry that is silly.  I'd be shocked if there was not a pot of coffee already made if everyone is up and active.  And if there isn't....set a timer or buy a Keurig.  Goodness.[/quote]

That’s not the point. The point is it takes no time to grab, say, a bottled iced coffee from the fridge and sneak back upstairs. If you are the first one up and hit start on the pre-set-up coffee, it’s going to take some time to brew. And even if it is already brewed via a timer or whatnot, it takes longer to get a mug, pour, add cream and sugar, and retreat somewhere.

I brought iced coffee in bottles to the beach last year for just this purpose. Even if others were up, I could just whisper “good morning,” grab, and head back upstairs. Once or twice ILs started talking to me and I just said, “I’m not awake yet; I’ll be back down in a bit.”[/quote]

Grabbing something from he fridge takes less time than making a mug of coffee.  Sure.  But we are talking about max three minutes.  Sure, maybe it is slightly annoying to have to interact a little in those three minutes.  But for this to be something that even registers as a difference on the annoyance scale is bizarre to me, personally.

(Plus, you can drink iced coffee in the winter.  I assume the climate is no different in the house.  Plus it isn't even currently winter!)[/quote]

If you give these types an inch, they will take a mile. If you whisper “good morning” to my FIL, he will start booming, full-volume, and go off on a monologue about, like, the pillows in his beach house room. Loud, loud, loud talking. There’s no reading the room, no easing in, no recognition that many other people are still sleeping. He sees another human being and assumes that NOW is the time to make breakfast, so he starts rattling around, never mind that it is 6:30 on vacation and no one wants to be woken up so they can eat some heavy omelette at the exact moment he deems it is time for everyone to sit at the table and eat.[/quote]

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