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"It might disturb a man to realise that his wife carries a mate-insurance policy, harbours sexual fantasies about her co-worker, or has ‘just a friend’ who is his rival."

"Another clue is that people rarely reveal to their regular partners that they consider someone a back-up mate. ‘We are just friends’ is a common refrain. But being ‘just friends’ is also a tactic used by poachers trying to lure someone away from a long-term mateship. Back-up mates often conceal their own mating motivations."

https://aeon.co/essays/does-the-mate-switching-hypothesis-explain-female-infidelity[/quote]

Directly from the article cited above:

A few lines of evidence support the notion that infidelity serves a mate-switching function for women. [b]First, women who initiate affairs are much more likely to suffer from marital dissatisfaction than women who do not. [/b]This might seem blindingly obvious, but the same studies show that men who have affairs do not, in fact, differ from those who abstain from affairs in their levels of marital happiness.[b] Second, women are much more likely than men to become emotionally involved with, and to fall in love with, their affair partners. Roughly 70 per cent of women report doing so, in contrast to only 30 per cent of men. Moreover, women are more likely to cite emotional involvement as a reason for the affair. Men are more likely to cite pure sexual pleasure.[/b] These critical sex differences point to dramatically different functional reasons for male and female infidelity. For women especially, they point to the mate-switching function.[/quote]

That’s ^ what I’ve seen IRL.  [/quote]

If all these things are true, it’s not a very effective mate-switching strategy by the women.[/quote]

That's exactly what the article concluded.  It is likely to cause more harm to the woman, blow up her current marriage and emotionally wreck her.  It's almost always unsuccessful. The guy in the situation wins out.  [/quote]

[b]They do it often because they can't support themselves or don't want to work. They can't leave their current marriage until they have another sucker in line to support them. That's why they don't just divorce and go out looking for exit affairs instead[/b].[/quote]

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