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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]I am the OP of this post: https://www.dcurbanmom.com/legacy/posts/list/195/1141971.page

My BIL is a contractor and drives anywhere from 1-2 hours (ones way) to various job sites. He has two kids, 4 and 7. The job sites are typically commercial locations, and he sits his kids down on the floor and gives them an iPad and snacks while he works.

He and SIL earn a decent income but will do anything other than pay for childcare. BIL likes to talk about his stock market gains and has a 90k SUV. If my BIL does not bring his kids to work, he drops them off at his 78 y/o grandmothers law firm (she’s still working), and the kids sit in a vacant office.

BIL and SIL have asked us to take their kids in: overnight or on occasion. We pay for a nanny during the day and DS is starting pre-k in the afternoon soon. I work during the day. I can’t watch my BIL’s kids. They don’t seem to understand that because I WFH, I’m not a SAHM.

I will ask my DH, why don’t you confront your BIL and sister about childcare? Or suggest they put their kids in daycare or get a nanny? That can’t be fun or safe for them to be sitting, unsupervised in commercial sites for hours on end. They could easily be kidnapped while BIL is not looking. DH said it’s none of his business and he won’t ask them, but it’s becoming our business because they keep asking for help with childcare.

Their 7 y/o will be going back to school soon. But they have no plans for childcare for their 4 y/o. They never did preschool, classes, camps, anything with either of their kids.

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How do you know they are just on their iPads the whole time? Depending on the site and the other workers they could be interacting with other adults and even have small tasks to do.  [/quote]

It actually seems really disruptive, OP. If there were kids running around my office regularly, I would not be happy. [/quote]

New poster. I bet the BIL would only listen if some client or foreman told him bluntly that the kids weren't welcome to hang out like this. I'm surprised no one has, yet, though maybe someone did and he is so thick he didn't get it. Like someone says above, this is possibly dangerous and I don't mean kidnapping either.. I doubt the BIL is sitting at a desk the entire time he's at these job sites; he's probably coming and going to check things on site, right? And he expects the kids to stay put? Sure hope one of them doesn't need a bathroom and wander off looking for one....etc.

This scenario is not only stupid-- [i]it's 100 percent unprofessional.[/i]  The BIL doesn't even realize how bad it makes him look, even if the kids are perfectly behaved. [/quote]

BIL is the contractor for that other poster who has contractor kids helping out their house remodel. [/quote]

Link? [/quote]

https://www.dcurbanmom.com/jforum/posts/list/1148794.page[/quote]

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