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Oh, my. OP, men have a lot longer runway on marriage than women do. Yes, even in 2023.  Your son can marry at 38, or 42, and marry a woman in her 20s. In fact, many men in their 20s are being urged to wait until their late 30s to settle down with a woman at least ten years younger. He can bide his time as long as he wants. Women don't enjoy the same timeline and feel pressure to seal the deal years before men do. [/quote]

^^^ This....

I am a 37 years old male and I am currently married to a 25 years old wife and life is great for me.  I met my wife when I was 35 and she was 23 and we got married three months after the first date.  I spent twelve years between the age 23 and 35 to become the best version of myself chasing excellence, and that was all I did. I spent a lot of time in the gym, learned new hobbies (flying drone, music, golf, martial arts), climbed up the corporate ladder so that I could be more attractive to the opposite sex.  I always knew that I would eventually find the right person for me and that person would be much younger than I.  If OP's son is not doing anything to "enhance" his "dating" value, that's another story.[/quote]

That sounds like what a lot of guys are or should be doing.  Great job!

However, it is so transparent that if OP's son has some growing up to do--and he may have a lot--it is imperative, the absolutely most important thing OP's son could possibly do to level up like you did--is to get as far away from OP and her pernicious, narcissistic and controlling influence over every aspect of his life, as he can.   If his mom/the OP believes he will never be able to get another gf as good as the current gf, she also needs to come to grips that her son's perceived deficiencies "as a man" are a direct result of her excessive intrusion into and control over his life, and her utter and complete lack of healthy boundaries, combined with a complete disrespect for her son as an autonomous individual.

Maybe it's cultural.  It's still terrible though.[/quote]

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