Reply to My brother copies everything I do

Forum Index » Family Relationships

Reply to "My brother copies everything I do - but better"

Subject:

Emoticons





More smilies

Text Color: Font: Close Marks

[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]What’s wrong with your brother doing “better” than you?  There’s no rule that says younger siblings have to be no better or have to be worse than the oldest.

You’re not “a failure” when he does better. That’s a rather extreme way to talk about yourself.  [b]His successes don’t diminish any of yours[/b].  This is all about your competitive personality and how you think.  Work on changing your thoughts; be happy for your brother and his family.  Therapy can help you with that.

It’s good for you and the whole extended family when he does well, too.  He could be asking you for money for his rent and bills regularly —and his wife’s designer bag, and his kids’ tuition — that he never can repay. Would you prefer a deadbeat brother?
[/quote]

My family believes differently. [/quote]

You just answered the question I was about to ask. This is really typical (you caring about this and him doing it) in families where the parents mainly showed love and praise for material accomplishments. Try to get out of this mindset and then you can see that he’s just chasing your parents love. And it will never be enough.[/quote]

Options

	Disable HTML in this message
	Disable BB Code in this message
	Disable smilies in this message

Review message

Search Recent Topics Hottest Topics