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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]OP, if you don't enjoy spending time with her then don't. But a lot of people don't want to pry, so it's on you to mention that you have a sister. If she listens when you talk, then I don't see the problem. If she immediately turns every topic back to herself, then that's a problem.[/quote]

I forgot to mention that you're completely jealous though. You're only upset about her talking about good things in her life. You're not complaining about her droning on and on about her sick cat.[/quote]

Except it sounds like, from OP's description of this woman, that she doesn't go on and on about her sick cat. She only boasts. People who walk around boasting all the time, or one-upping people constantly, inspire jealousy because they like it. Well it worked! OP is jealous, but also doesn't want to be around this woman who makes her feel jealous all the time, which is a healthy approach to the problem from OP.

"You sound jealous" isn't the insult some of you think it is. Sure, sometimes people get jealous. And OP's response is "how do I withdraw from this relationship that isn't serving my mental health." You aren't required to stay friends with someone who is constantly trying to get you to feel jealous out of some weird social obligation. You can just move on and hang out with people who don't view life as a giant competition all the time.[/quote]

PP here. We agree that OP should stop hanging out with her if she doesn't enjoy it. But someone talking about positive things in her life isn't necessarily boasting. We don't know how the conversation truly went. It's not an insult to say OP is jealous, but she should own it. It's ok to say I'm jealous AND I don't like hanging out with this person. OP doesn't even need a good reason. Just not enjoying it is enough. But stop attacking the friend for not knowing that OP has a sister. That's on OP. Now OP is jealous and nitpicking the friend to create a justification to stop hanging out with her. That's really crappy. OP should just own the facts and stop seeing her friend without trumping up charges.[/quote]

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