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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]At around 8:50, I nudged the kids (DS (14) had already gotten up to get his phone around 8ish) and I said I would make fresh scrambled eggs and assemble a few other breakfast items (as we were out of milk for cereal). I said they could have 5 minutes but then be downstairs. [b]DH was out running errands so it was just the kids and I.
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I gave them 7-8 minutes and asked them to come downstairs as the eggs were ready. They yelled back that they were tired and that they weren’t hungry. I again asked that they come down- it was after 9 and the eggs were ready (along with other breakfast items). At one point I heard DS even said to DD (11) at one point that they better go down before mom gets mad. They eventually came down- DD threw all the stuff off the couch onto the floor (which I told her to pick up and scolded her for it) and DS said he just wanted cereal. He even prepared a bowl until he realized we were out of milk.

He kept pushing back on why we had to get up/have breakfast. I explained [b]I wanted to have breakfast as a family, [/b][b]even if DH was out,[/b] and how their reactions made me feel (hurt) and that it came across as disrespectful as it felt like I was being ignored. He accused me of being a hypocrite and that I was perceiving their actions to be that way when they weren’t.

So DCUM- AITA? WWYD? Why do I need to ask multiple times before my kids do what I ask? Is that normal? I just feel so disrespected and am worried I’m raising brats. [b]But I don’t know if DH has my back (that’s for another post)[/b] so I’m not sure how to proceed. They are now downtairs listening to music after complaining about me. Is it just tween/teenage thing?[/quote]

OP, forgive me if I'm reading too much into this but is it possible there is some issue going on with DH that is making you need to have some control over the little things?[/quote]

+1. Something is definitely going on between OP and DH. What on earth do you mean that he doesn’t have your back? He wasn’t even home when you threw your temper tantrum. This whole thing sounds super bizarre like you never spend time with your kids or something. I have tweens and I’m pretty in tune with when they’re hungry and what they like, honestly I anticipate this stuff even more than they themselves do. Also a few eggs is not some particularly unique/special family breakfast to get all bent out of shape about. It’s not like you spent an hour prepping some difficult or expensive recipe. I’m sorry that the kids did not appreciate your effort, truly. But your reaction is disproportionately out of whack. [/quote]

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