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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]It sounds like they have no firm agreement, so the mom is trying to keep with their usual routine which is that she doesn't go more than a few days without seeing her mother. And the dad wants to have a different routine on vacation.

It's going to be a rocky road co-parenting if they can't have an adult conversation about this kind of thing. OP, if your brother wants more time, maybe he should volunteer to do more of the weeknight tedium and not just the fun parts.[/quote]

OP here. My brother would love more time during the week, but the mom thinks/want her daughter to have a more stable life now that she is so young and my brother agreed to it.

Both work FT and don’t have a nanny (maybe the mom does a bit, but I am not sure). My niece goes to FT school and does aftercare often so she is basically out of the house all day.

I may be wrong here, but I think the mom does not want to lose control and perhaps regrets her affair and wants to try and get back together. I know she asked ny brother to take a vacation the 3 of them together… he does not talk much to me and gets upset if I ask questions so I could be totally wrong.[/quote]

Your brother needs to start the proceedings with a lawyer, stat. And demand 50/50 custody. She is creating co-dependency and has shown that she is unreasonable—by showing up unannounced. She’s also setting up a dangerous precedent, so he needs to make it legal.

My brother was in a similar situation m, being the nice guy, and didn’t want to file until a lawyer friend convinced him he was en route to losing his kids. He did and got 50/50. [/quote]

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