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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]I have two ACs at home. One is post college, first job. Another is in college, home for summer.

Both are working/interning and making money. 
Both get friends over and act like typical teen, twenties people.  Messy rooms, dishes in the rooms, sleeping late during the weekends etc.

Most of the times, I let them be. They are decompressing after a full day of work and home is their sanctuary. However, if I give them advance notice, and ask for help and assign chores, they do that without arguments.

I would not take my kids talking rudely to me, doing destructive things (drugs, hookups, smoking, drinking, bad friends) or not doing well in their studies and work. My expectation is that my kids will excel, they will take care of their mental and mental and physical health, be pleasant and polite, and they will make good decisions professionally, personally, socially, morally and financially.

Being messy and careless is ok in my home to an extent because they know that I will take care of it since I am their mother. If they were a hot mess in other ways, I would have a problem. 
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You really are clueless. You expect they will excel in every area. You expect that they will take care of their mental health and not hook up because it is destructive (an adult). Hope your bubble doesn’t pop because that isn’t life, lady. [/quote]

Nah! I did not raise trashy kids in a dysfunctional home. I have expectations for them  and from them, but these are rooted in reality of the support and education we give them.  You cannot have good children if you are not good parents. 
 
They are doing fine and will continue to do fine. No bubble here. I am sorry that you think that mental health issues and indiscriminate sexual activities are a rite of passage. My AC have been taught to respect and value themselves and it is reinforced by our culture.  No wonder your kids are lost.

And no, my kids are not perfect in every area. They do make messes and they are careless at times.  [/quote]

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