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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]OP here. I have had a couple of discussions and [b]fights with my DD the last two days. I think we have made progress.[/b] She put gas in the car and is paying for car servicing tomorrow. She also helped out with house chores.

FYI She lived with three other girls last year, which started this “roommate” mentality. The rude behaviour, however, is unacceptable. She swore at me the other day, and I told her she will lose the car privilege if it happens again. I also said that if it continues, she will need to find another place to stay next summer. I refuse to be her punching bag.

Furthermore, I suggested she seek counselling at her university, which is free. She holds a lot of unresolved anger surrounding her dad, who struggles with bipolar disorder. He has not contributed financially to her schooling. I am the sole provider for the two of us, which causes resentment towards me because I can’t afford as much as some of her peers’ families. However, she needs a reality check on our living situation.

Thank for all of the feedback. Each stage of parenting has its own unique challenges![/quote]

That never works OP. You may think you "won" but you didn't. You DD is taking the path of least resistance, but her resentment is only growing. [/quote]

OP here. We have had constructive discussions these past couple of days, which includes tensions. It’s never been about “winning”. My daughter has a lot of leeway. She has a lot of freedom, and we have gone through a lot with each other. I live in Canada, which means young adults (18-19) can drink. I have given her space to grow and have fun. But she needs to be respectful as we share space. 
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Then you shouldn’t have characterized it as “fights.”[/quote]

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