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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]It’s not rude to neither host nor travel. [/quote]

It is rude if the deal was alternating and OP’s family is still welcome on their years. [/quote]
It’s not a binding contract; you can change your mind as circumstances change. Sometimes you just aren’t up for it.[/quote]

Well, then I hope she’s fairly “not up for” hosting her parents too. Otherwise it’s just undisguised favoritism and nothing more.[/quote]

This attitude has never made sense to me. The choice of how to spend a holiday can actually be “we’re hosting the low maintenance guests who enrich our holiday but don’t require a lot of work on our part”

It’s not engraved on a holy tablet that we have to exhaust ourselves every year and the sooner people start acting that way the sooner we’ll have fewer Christmas threads here…[/quote]

Guarantee OP’s husband doesn’t agree they should only spend holidays with her parents from now on. [/quote]

That isn’t what the OP is suggesting (or what I’m saying). If someone is six months from Christmas looking out and dreading the work of a particular set of guests this year, it’s wholly reasonable to say, you know what, this year I want to hit the easy button on the holidays.

That means *next year* OP might not be dreading the holiday season and has the energy to travel or to host.

I have a friend whose parents were so insanely hell-bent on “fair” and exactly even and every holiday had to have perfectly matched time for each family, and now that friend goes in a cruise every year for Christmas, with her in laws. She told her mom the in laws pay and she doesn’t feel comfortable arguing about the dates, but it’s not true, she just gave up on a demanding person at the holidays.[/quote]

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