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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]Op here,

This is the full message she sent:

"Larla, I got the cash app. Thanks. I just want to say in the future, please don't regard me as your errand boy."

FWIW, I sent the cash app before she even went to the PO. I just wanted it to be done so she wouldn't be waiting around for her reimbursement. Also, no there was no implication that she had to do it. I even said in the message, "if you can't, no worries at all!" and meant it because I have a few local friends I could ask. [/quote]

I think you are overreacting to this. It sounds like she's annoyed. Perhaps the favor was more burdensome than you realize (maybe it took a lot longer than you think to find the item and get it shipped, maybe she ran into irritating challenges at the shipping place, maybe she was having a stressful day of her own when you asked it of her), and it turns out that it was a really disruptive favor. It's okay for her to express her frustration with that, especially if she thinks you may not realize it was a big deal.

And she's setting a boundary for the future -- next time, don't call her for something like this. Now you know. Sure, it would have been better if she'd just told you at the time "this is too much for me, can you ask someone else?" But maybe she thought it wouldn't be that bad, or maybe she really wanted to come through for you in that moment and only realized once she was in the middle of it that it was more burdensome than she thought.

At the end of the day, you are the one who made a mistake and needed her help. She's a little put out, she's let you know she can't help you next time. Just thank her again and move on.[/quote]

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