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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]I cannot believe all these replies. Presumably you allowed them to visit and stay with you? They didn't just shop up? Seriously, just nicely ask the kid to change the behavior if it's really bad. Tell him the rules and ask him to comply. Do it nicely and get over it. It's a few days and these people are obviously part of your life. Just be courteous and patient for a few days. I would never ever behave the way some posters are suggesting. If you do or say those things to those parents, particularly suggesting they leave because of their kid's behavior, that relationship will be over forever. I would guess the guests are your really your spouse's and you're looking to judge, though, too, right?[/quote]

You do realize that...OP has already tried this approach, yes? And it hasn't work.

So now it's time to try another tactic, right? That's what we are suggesting.

And no, it's actually not being courteous to teach this kid and his parents that they can roll up and act like this in someone's home, to the point of being destructive and disruptive. You're the type who confuses "being courteous" with "being a doormat." Those are two different things.[/quote]

I know it very well. I also know how not to walk around with a stick in my...[/quote]

All evidence to the contrary. Or, as you so inelegantly put it, "Bullsh*t, bullsh*t"  :lol:

Stay classy.[/quote]

I'm the PP and not the one who posted that. As I said in my just previous post, there are several who think you all need to learn to chill. [/quote]

Please do let us know how asking parents to stop their child from jumping on furniture or doing other destructive and disruptive things in one’s home is hysterical or over-the-top. No one is suggesting kicking anyone out, no one is suggesting yelling at the kid or the parents, no one is suggesting spanking the kid. Opening your mouth and talking to a kid’s parents is, in fact, a pretty “chill” way to stop a kid bouncing on your furniture.[/quote

There's just a way to do it without sounding like an uptight, formal priss. When the kid is doing something wrong, just say, "yo Billy, off the furniture dude." Then redirect and maybe offer something for the kid to do. The kid is probably bored silly as are the parents. Ask him to help you pull some snacks together. Be interesting and fun. That way they kid won't be so bored at your house and driving you crazy. Again, loosen up and be cool. [/quote]

I mean, you may have a point except—OP talking directly to the kid is not working. So why are you suggesting more direct interaction with the kid? Again, that isn’t working. Are you really That Parent who lets your kid jump on the furniture at other people’s houses?[/quote]

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