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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]If a man takes on the responsibilities of childcare or housework or scheduling but does a bad or halfass job of it because he does not try to learn the best practices by reading or networking or even just asking someone who knows more than him then that is unacceptable and should not be tolerated.  His ego should not be enough to get him a pass on these responsibilities.

I can't even imagine that a man would allow his female partner to change the oil in the car without having learned how first, or try to build a shed in the backyard just by using her supposedly superior intellect only as a guide.  I can think of many other examples but the point is nobody should be allowed to screw things up just in the interest of not micromanaging their efforts.  Especially not the care of children![/quote]

People learn by doing.  Not by reading a book or blog or forum or asking a friend.

If people do not do, they don't learn.

I assume that you are a single parent?[/quote]
dp.. you assume that all women just "know" how to do things like parent, clean and cook.

I learned how to cook by reading and watching, and yes doing.  DH is a better cook than I am, so he gave me suggestions.  Never once did I get defensive, and tell him to do all the cooking then if I was doing it wrong.

I read parenting books. DH didn't.  There's a running joke in my house about how DH doesn't read the manual or instructions when he is putting stuff together.

Men generally don't like taking instructions.   There's that stereotype of how men will never ask for directions even if they're lost. There's a bit of truth to that.

A lot of men just don't like asking for help or wanting to be told how to do something, particularly by women.[/quote]

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