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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]Same. I identify with everything you said.  I used to be social with various friend groups. I don’t know what happened…but it’s embarrassing. [b]Everyone is going out with friends and I’m always home alone.[/b] [/quote]

I don't think everyone is going out.  I could have written the OP's post and I very much agree that things changed during Covid and there are now a lot of very lonely and disconnected people.  (and yes, there are others who are very happy 
to no longer have social obligations).

I sometimes feel like I'm alone but then I look at my block.  I live in AU Park--neighborhood of families, kids, etc.  Known to be super social, etc.  Well, on a typical Friday or Saturday night EVERY single family on my block (10 families) is at home.  No one is 
entertaining.  I don't track the cars (no, I'm not a weird stalker) but I typically walk my dog around 7pm down the block and I know the cars (because I know the neighbors and day-after-day you know who drives what, etc).  Well there is no one coming or going (all cars are sitting in front of the homes) and no one is ever having a BBQ or back yard party.  We're all sitting in our homes.  
It's striking.  I really think people's socializing has been dialed way back over the past 2-3 years (by choice or not by choice)
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That’s just your weird block.  Everyone I know is out all three days of the weekend including us[/quote]

I cannot relate. That sounds horrible to be out every night like that at this age. Are you in your 20’s? [/quote]

DP. In my late 30’s and have some social activity going on both days almost every weekend, not 3 days every weekend like PP, and you get used to it. It’s better than being alone and worth it to socialize our kids.[/quote]

The condescension in this post does a good job of explaining why I don’t socialize this much. I don’t want to hang out with people like this.[/quote]

Yeah. Also, “socialize our kids” makes it sound like their kids are puppies.[/quote]

Sorry, but this is why y’all are lonely. And children who are socialized properly are less likely to be lonely and defensive as adults. [/quote]

I'm not lonely and my kid is "socialized." I don't go socialize with people both weekend days because I like to spend at least a little time on my own/just with my family. You make hanging out with friends sound like a chore you make yourself do.

I think at least part of the loneliness people feel is not actually about needing to be around other people more, but about feeling pressure to go out more and have more friends. Kids benefit form quiet time alone and/or at home as well -- kids need to learn to be bored and find ways to entertain themselves without the constant stimulation of events and other people.

We are born alone and we die alone, and honestly being alone isn't so bad.[/quote]

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