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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]You sound very dramatic, OP. Let's all hope you never experience any actual problems because you will fall completely apart.[/quote]

Actually the bigger issue is how this oaf would cope with “actual problems” if he habitually fails at menial tasks. Let’s indeed all hope she doesn’t experience any “actual problems” because she’s likely on her own. Even if he’s a lovely person, “lovely” doesn’t get stuff done, which puts a disproportionate burden on her. She’s entitled to her frustration, and it doesn’t mean that he doesn’t have other nice qualities.

And for those saying “you picked him” - understand that executive function issues often grow with the complexity of life. Maybe “you picked him” when it was just the two of you, and you were young with no responsibilities yet. You would have needed a crystal ball to manifest how complicated your life would become and whether or not your spouse would be able to rise to those particular challenges. Some people grow while others tread water or worse. It is not always foreseeable. It’s like saying “You picked them” to someone whose spouse develops a drinking problem, absent any indicators when they got married 10 years earlier.

How about a little empathy for someone whose relationship sounds pretty frustrating?  If you have nothing helpful to contribute, why don’t you move on? 
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