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[quote=Anonymous]This is the consequence of bad parenting.  You created this and now you don’t like it.  Set boundaries.  Be a parent.

When my kids misbehave there are consequences, normally natural ones, but yeah I use screen time too.  Like if they don’t clean their toys and give me a headache about it.  I pack up the toys and donate them to charity.  Do that once and it will never happen again - I promise you.

If they give me grief about what I cook for dinner, I do one of 2 things.  1. I make them responsible for the next meal and they get to listen to their siblings complaints about the food. or 2. I put foil on it and serve it up cold when they complain about being hungry.

If they are disrespectful to me - I stop indulging them in anything.  When they ask why I say “why do I want to do XXXX for someone who is not respectful to me.  If I did XXXX to you how would that make you feel.”. Or you can fall back on “I am obligated to care for you, provide food, education, and clothing.  I am not obligated to take abuse from you or indulge you.  Good behavior gets rewarded.  Whatever you call this behavior gets nothing from me.”

If they whine  - “I’m sorry I can’t hear anything you say through all that noise.  If you speak to me in a normal voice I might understand you.”

This system isn’t perfect and I’m sure DCUM has all sorts of ideas about me (of which I don’t care).  However, it works for me and my kids are generally very well behaved.  They’re not perfect, but they’re respectful and kind most of the time - to me and everyone else.[/quote]

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