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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]DD has significant anxiety issues, some health issues (PCOS & hyperthyroidism) and a mild learning disability.  She’s struggled with both since she was around 6.

DH&I have constantly battled against each other and ourselves regarding how to parent her and what realistic expectations look like.

She’s our only kid together but we each raised several before getting together.  We are in our late 60s and I’m starting to worry about her ability to cope when we are gone.

She relies on us a lot and I will admit we both have babied her.   She has zero interest in going out with friends, learning to drive or getting a job outside the home.  She has a YouTube channel and posts regularly and that brings in more than we expected but probably not enough for her to get a place on her own.

Anytime we push the subject of her next steps she breaks down. She states she has no interest in moving out.

She has an AA from our local community college and attempted to find a job in her field (graphic design) but hasn’t.  She doesn’t want to try anything not related to her degree.

I guess if we died we’d leave the house to her so at least she’d have a home.

Her needs aren’t so severe she needs adult services but she is not as functional as most able-bodied adults her age.

Is this something a therapist could help with?[/quote]

She needs to live on her own for a while. You too need to relax and have her learn independence. Get her enrolled in your state school to get a bachelor's degree and experience student housing. Get her a retail job for some income of her own. Gift her 10 driving lessons from a driving school. Report back in one year.[/quote]

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