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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]You couldn't overthink this any more if you tried. I would not be at ALL surprised if you wrote these things out on a piece of paper. An Excel spreadsheet could be involved.

You need to unclench. You need to let this unfold however they unfold, and deal with whatever comes up. You can't predict or control or prepare. Relax.[/quote]

I think I could stand to be a little better prepared than I have been- [b]I wasn’t expecting my daughter to be lonely at recess because her classmates were huddled around talking about bras, boyfriends, etc. while she’s trying to organize a group to jump rope.[/b] I’d like to think about conversations I might need to have during the relaxed safety of summer so my daughter goes into 3rd grade feeling less off-kilter. And maybe getting a better idea of some of the downsides to consider so I can think through whether a future school switch would be a good idea.
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This already happened? So when your child was 7, she was left out because 1/4 of the 9 year olds were all discussing bras and boyfriends? Or this is what you’re afraid of happening this year? What about the other 3/4 of the class? Why not reconsider public right now? If this hasn’t happened yet, the poster is right- you’re overthinking this in such a major way, your anxiety about it will run off on your child and there will be problems because she’ll see the situation as you do. [/quote]

yes, this actually  happened in the spring of 2nd grade (!) and similar stuff is happening this summer when we attend big group events.

Thank you to the good advice I’ve received in this thread. To clarify a few things:

-the school doesn’t have the problem of girls leaving in middle school every single year. It happens every 5 years or so when a cohort is a bit off.

-my daughter is in one intense after-school activity and one casual one. Both have given her a group of genuine, supportive friends. Ironically, they’re both activities that divide levels based on skill not age so she has friends of all ages in her activity and it works out fine. Something about the school dynamic is unhealthy.

-on reflection I think that the culture at her school does magnify some of the issues I’m observing. We live in an area where many schools run from 5th-12th and middle school starts in 6th grade so I’m now thinking about the timing of a switch. 
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Second graders talking about boys and bras are not scary like you think a middle schooler talks about boys. This is maybe beyond what your kid does but it’s also not like a real boyfriend. [/quote]

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