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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]The older girls will set the tone of the class. If you already don't like it, expect it only to heighten as they approach early puberty. My DD is older, but she is my eldest and so her interests have always been younger than her peers.

The dynamic you describe has happened many times in her classrooms. Anyone who says that you are overthinking this is ignorant of the issues that can come up. Unless you child really enjoys the school, it couldn't hurt to look around. You are paying for it after all.
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+1, I think if your gut is telling you this is a problem, it’s a problem.

I have an only child who is the youngest girl in her grade, and we’ve dealt with some aspect of this issue since kindergarten. But our school is stricter about redshirting so the age span is smaller. Also, while each fall there is some amount of social drama, by mid year DD has settled and found her people. It has helped that she is strong academically.

But the thing about older sisters resulting in certain challenging behavior is very real. And the stuff about your child always feeling left out or behind the others on interests and friendships. It isn’t overblown and you aren’t overthinking— it has an impact in your child daily.

The best advice I have for you is to invest time and effort in one or two extra curricular that will provide a social outlet for her, where these problems aren’t there. That’s been dance for DD. More girls who are onlies or eldest children, and more girls near her in age. She also has two family friends who are about 6 months younger than her (and a grade behind her), and we make a point of spending time with them often. It helps.[/quote]

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