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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]Your husband has to consent to it.  And can.  I’m completely sure she has a release of information that she’d accept if her client signed it (client meaning your husband).  So blame your husband, he can give consent if he wants to.[/quote]

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They are his medical records.  He can do whatever HE wants with them.[/quote]

DP. My guess is HE did not consent and is just telling OP he did. [/quote]

Sorry, OP but your husband either didn't sign the form, or signed it, but expressed reluctance to his therapist about the whole thing so she won't do it. It's by far the most likely answer.

So, instead of getting angry, stop, take a breath - and ask yourself why it's so important to you that your husband's therapist talk to your marriage counselor. Is it because you don't trust what he says in marriage counseling? Is it because he thinks he's lying to one or both therapists? Is it because deep down inside you want to know more about what your husband is saying to his therapist and think this might give you a clue? Is it because you have some control issues? Is it because you're desperate for improved communication and are pushing that desire wherever you can? Is it because you feel marriage counseling is moving too slow and you want to jump start it?

Get past "I think it will help!" and really dig here. WHY do you think it will help when at least one and possibly two of the parties involved in this disagree (your husband and his therapist).

Then ask your husband, not in an attacking way, not demanding, not angrily, why it isn't important to him. And listen, really listen, to the answer. See if you can start a calm discussion about this. NOT with the goal of getting him to get his therapist to talk. But with the goal of understanding what's going on and perhaps how that reflects on your larger situation. Which is the goal anyway![/quote]

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