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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]Yeah, two different metrics -- when it's safe to have sex because you've healed enough not to pull stitches or cause infection, and when you personally want to have sex.

I was cleared at my 6 week appointment for sex but I had serious PPD and I think the first time we had sex was at probably 6 or 7 months, and to be honest it was largely because I just wanted to see how it went and not because I really wanted to do it. And it wasn't great sex and I wasn't eager to do it again soon, in part because my body was just not responding with arousal.

I wouldn't say that sex felt back to normal for almost 2 years. I know that's not typical for others, but I'm adding it here as a data point just to show that there is a very broad range. [/quote]

That’s the thing: I think it IS normal for most women, but there is a lot of legacy misogyny in healthcare leading to such stupidities as being even medically ok after 6 weeks. The vagina has not shrunk back down at 6 weeks. Second+ degree tears are not fully healed and scar tissue supple at 6 weeks. Many are still bleeding at 6 weeks. Most still experience some pain or weird sensations or numbness at 6 weeks. Six weeks is totally bonkers and caters to the idea that men will leave women or cheat if they are ever denied sex, even postpartum, so women need to know when they absolute soonest second is that they could maybe have sex and not die. That’s a low bar.[/quote]

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