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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]"Sorry, but I'm not comfortable having you stay here while we're gone."

If they object, you can just repeat endlessly, or you can tell them the truth: You don't follow the house rules when we're here, and I'm concerned about how much worse it would be if we're not here.

I don't think it's fair to complain that they eat all your food. They have to eat. But making a mess, not controlling their dog? They want to live the way they live at their own house. They should be able to do that -- just not at your house. Maybe they can find a VRBO that will accommodate them. And if not, maybe it will open their eyes. [/quote]

As a guest, I would NEVER eat all the food in someone's fridge without restocking the fridge. I wouldn't do it now, as an adult, and I wouldn't have done it when I was a teenager either. I think it is completely reasonable to say "Family, I am happy to have you stay here when we are here (and only when we are here), but you need to contribute to the grocery fund if you're going to eat everything in the fridge. We cannot afford to feed a second family (even if you can)."

PP, why in the world would you think this was okay?[/quote]

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