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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]I have a daughter the same age and I hear a lot of talk from her and her friends. There is no real cancelling over super petty things. Someone doesn’t get cancelled over using one slur one time - if someone gets cancelled for that, it’s because when called out for it, they didn’t just apologize and try to do better, they doubled down and usually go on the offense.

I’ve seen kids get dropped for being generally shitty friends and usually the final incident is small, but it’s the pattern of behavior that causes it. I see a lot of kids dropped for generally having poor social skills and being unable to work through conflicts. All friendships have conflicts, some don’t handle them well.

I have seen boys get dropped for specific behavior by friend their  groups and that’s almost always sexually aggressive behavior. I would be very concerned as the mother of a freshman boy that this was the reason. And id suck it up and ask the mom of one of his friends - don’t pick the nicest, pick the bluntest one. The one most likely to actually tell you. And be prepared to not be defensive and accept the answer.[/quote]

Sometimes girls, and I would imagine boys, also get dropped because of “queen bee” dynamics. I think the kid who was dropped could have poor social skills, but so could the kids doing the dropping.  Either way, try and view this as a chance for your son to make a new circle of friends and I wouldn’t necessarily assume the worst. It seems to get much easier after 16+ when the queen bee dynamic becomes less intense.[/quote]

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