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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]Have 1 kid and stay in the city. You both win. suburban family life ain’t all that. I know a lot of moms like me who have lost our souls and personhoods here. Can’t wait for an empty nest and to move back to a city[/quote]

This! At least seriously consider it.

My DH sounds different from yours in some ways, but he was clear that he was ambivalent on kids and that his career would come first, but he knew I wanted kids so he was ok with it.  He wasn't actively anti-kids or anything like that. We have 1 and it's worked out great. He does put his career first, and I've lost a bit of myself to motherhood, and having 2 would have been a disaster.

We did do the suburban thing, and it's alright, but [i]staying closer to the city[/i] would have pushed things from great to awesome.

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This and another post talk about "losing" oneself to motherhood. If you and that other PP actually mean "I left my career track and wish I had not," I wish you'd both just come out and say that clearly. If you mean, "I realized I don't like the feeling I"m supposed to be on the PTA or hang with neighborhood moms," say so. If you know what you "lost," name it and figure out what you should be doing so you're not going around feeling lost in suburbia. It does not [i]have[/i] to be that way. [/quote]

Pp you quoted. I do know and am addressing these things, but they aren’t relevant to my DH’s thoughts on kids or the topic of this thread. If OP starts a thread on her thoughts on motherhood, I’m happy to elaborate.[/quote]

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