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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]I don't understand why this is your job to manage. It's almost like you've taken on your DH as another kid.

I'd be fine with the hobbies and purchases....but would draw the line at the "new personality". He's grumpy? Tired of being a dad? He was a willing participant in the decisions that led up to this point in his life, right? So sorry the consequences of the sex he had many years ago is too much for him to handle now.

Is he still able to emotionally connect with you on a relationship level....or is he just a big whinny ball of complaints at this point? 
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You think your approach will help fix the problem? Your position here is logically defensible, but [b]if there are things that OP can do to help make her DH happier[/b] and her marriage stronger, isn't that worth considering? If those things burden her more than they help her, then probably she shouldn't bother. But if they ultimately help her more than they burden her, she should probably go ahead and do them even if, logically, "she shouldn't have to." [/quote]

You cannot make [b]somebody like this happier[/b]. This really is his own period of emotional turmoil to manage and he needs to do it in a way that doesn't bring down the whole family. Sometimes, yes, putting your foot down and demanding better is the way to fix the problem.

-DP[/quote]

Just to be clear - a husband who works out, changes his wardrobe, takes up new hobbies, drinks somewhat more, buys a car, gets grumpy dealing with unpleasant teens, and is feeling bored with life -- this is somebody who you can't help make happier? Because the husband OP describes doesn't seem at all unusual or even all that problematic. This isn't some kind of sociopathic edge case. Just sounds like a restless suburban dad.

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You still can’t make them happy.

Their misery is a choice you can’t change.[/quote]

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